Modesty in Dress by Abraham V. Llera

 “MEN WANT women’s sexuality, but they can only deal with it when it exists wholly for them. If a woman is sexual about anything other than you in particular, it’s a problem. That’s when she’s a slut.”

I made my lead this Chrissy Stockton statement in her thoughtcatalog.com article  because, in my opinion, it pretty much describes the huge mistake our Filipino young girls are making in their fashion choices these days.

Look around you at the malls, and you’d see everyone, and I mean everyone—from lithe young girls with fantastic legs to flabby matrons who should be fined wearing these things in public–  wear shorts so short they reach up to the wearer’s crotch, where it can no longer go any higher.

Correct me if I’m wrong, but, in my opinion, our young girls dress provocatively in malls and anywhere else that there’s a lot of people (especially boys) because they believe that this is the best way to bag a very good catch of a husband years from now.

The idea, I suspect, goes like this:  the more boys a girl mesmerizes, the bigger becomes the universe the girl can choose from, and, therefore, the better her chances are  of bagging a future husband who’s not only Mensa, but a veritable David Beckham who’ll make the girl the envy of zillion others, and who’s a Roman Abramovich to boot.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with forward planning, much less with planning big – if one’s sure of her assumptions.  But the above plan– especially if woven around the strategy of dressing provocatively to establish the initial contacts – will fall flat on its face, believe me.

Why?  Because:   “Men want women’s sexuality, but they can only deal with it when it exists wholly for them. If a woman is sexual about anything other than you in particular, it’s a problem. That’s when she’s a slut.”  Needless to say, a girl who dresses provocatively in malls is one who – as far as any boy is concerned – cannot exist wholly for him.  The boy may get interested, might even aggressively get interested, but the boy will do it to score, not to consider the girl as his future wife.

“Unfair,” some girls may already be complaining.  Surely not all girls who dress provocatively are automatically poor wife material.   Many of them probably were raised to be good girls, attended Catholic schools,  studied hard,  chose  good friends,  minded their manners, obediently followed their parents’ advice, and never rebelled against their parents nor got in any trouble.

The problem is, that’s how boys’ minds work, and, even in these days of slam-bang-thank-you-maam, this “old-fashioned” thinking still holds.

It’s incredible, even amazing, but that’s the truth:  men still put a premium on purity, and the initial means they have to size up a girl is in the way the girl dresses.  And, believe me, the girl flaunting her sexuality by wearing short shorts is going to be at the bottom of his list.

Remember the #1 rule of the universe:  “Men want women’s sexuality, but they can only deal with it when it exists wholly for them. If a woman is sexual about anything other than you in particular, it’s a problem. That’s when she’s a slut.”

Clothing fulfills three needs:  hygiene, adornment, and decency. We dress in a certain way to keep ourselves comfortable and to ward off illness.  Adornment answers our need—greater in women-  to enhance the beauty and dignity of our person.  Decency ensures proper consideration for the sensitivity of others, especially as this concerns the defense of moral honesty, and to guard against disordered sensuality.

Some 5,873 years have passed since Adam and Eve, and it’s still true:  clothing beliefs are so deeply-rooted in nature that they cannot be disregarded without provoking hostility.  Or, as far as our young girls are concerned, distaste from the target boys. (abrahamvllera@yahoo.com)